5 @ 5: Us vs Them

by TKOEd • Friday, Oct 26, 2012 • no responses - be the first

No, not Democrats vs GOPers or Blacks vs whites. Much nerdier than that. Nerd hypotheticalism (yes, I just made that up) at it’s best:

Well planned take downs aren’t just for Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, and Shakespearean plots any more:

Some truly beautiful, and awe inspiring pictures:

Using surgery to stop your dog from barking? Fuck you:

How do you stay healthy? Surround yourself with people who are just as committed as yourself:



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The Big Story: Romney’s Racism

by TKOEd • Friday, Oct 26, 2012 • no responses - be the first

“We’re taking back America” ~ Mitt Romney

Did I miss something? Was America stolen? If so, who stole it? Wait, I know. It must have been that Black guy (from the southside of Chicago no less) in the big White House in D.C. You know, the one with the militant wife. He’s shifty on the basketball court. He’s probably shifty off of it too.

Mitt Romney’s co-chair, John Sununu, is a man who has blown quite a few dog whistles in this campaign. Now he’s recycling one from the 2008 presidential elections: Colin Powell is going to vote for Obama because they’re both Black. Should I assume that Sununu is supporting Romney because they’re both white? Is he “proud” of Romney because he’s running for president, and he’s white?  Should I assume that the 57% of white men who voted against Obama in 2008 did so because he’s Black, and McCain is white? A Democrat hasn’t won the white vote since 1964. That was the year Lyndon Johnson won in a landslide against Goldwater. Interestingly enough, the Civil Rights Act passed that year. I wonder if that had anything to do with whites voting GOP for nearly half a decade? Nah, no way (#straightface).

Personally, I’m interested in any of Sununu’s apologies or retractions of his racist bullshit. I am interested in the fact that Romney has never rebuked any of Sununu’s remarks publicly. Instead Sununu continues to be on the frontlines for Romney’s campaign. Constantly sent to talk to the media. So I have to assume that, at worst, Romney agrees with his co-chair’s bigoted pronouncements or, at best, sees a political advantage to these kinds of statements. For some reason I’m very inclined to believe it’s the latter. Maybe it’s because Romney believes Black people just want free stuff from the government.

Lately, Romney wants the American public to see him as a moderate. But as I watched clips from his speech yesterday, and I heard that “taking back” line, and knew he was going to send out racist dog whistles right up to & on the day of the election. This is who Romney has decided he’s going to be. This is who the modern day GOP is. Blacks want free shit, Obama stole America, and Negroes vote for Obama because he’s Black.

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5 @ 5: Required Reading For All Men & Boys

by TKOEd • Tuesday, Oct 23, 2012 • no responses - be the first

Gentlemen, boys & all others who consider themselves part of the male gender, read this:

What would the candidates for president do about “dark money”? Pretty much nothing:

@jennpozner says reality teevee is bad for women. I wholeheartedly agree:

I didn’t know Joe Trippi now works for Fox News. The biggest Deaniac is now working at the Death Star. SMH. He’s really gone soft too, but the biggest takeaway from this article is that eating right can, and probably will save your life:

This isn’t about competition, it’s about increasing market share even more. The iPad Mini will be a blockbuster. You can take the to the bank:

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The Big Story: Last Night’s Presidential Debate

by TKOEd • Tuesday, Oct 23, 2012 • no responses - be the first

I don’t know about you, but Obama took Romney to college. Stern, but cool, Professor Barack was on full display last night. Obama was downright snarky in a lot of his responses, and sought to cast Romney as a liar, and totally clueless:

On a whole range of issues, whether it’s the Middle East, whether it’s Afghanistan, whether it’s Iraq, whether it’s now Iran, you’ve been all over the map.”

“There have been times, Governor, frankly, during the course of this campaign, where it sounded like you thought that you’d do the same things we did, but you’d say them louder and somehow that that would make a difference.”

“You mention the Navy, for example, and that we have fewer ships than we did in 1916. Well governor, we also have fewer horses and bayonets,” Obama said during the final presidential debate. “We have these things called aircraft carriers and planes land on them. We have these ships that go underwater, nuclear submarines. It’s not a game of battleship where we’re counting ships, it’s ‘What are our capabilities?’”

“Well, Governor Romney’s right, you are familiar with jobs being shipped overseas because you invested in companies that were shipping jobs overseas…”

“When I went to Israel as a candidate, I didn’t take donors, I didn’t attend fundraisers, I went to Yad Vashem, the Holocaust museum…”

This was a presidential sonning. Time, and again Romeny brought up the economy, smartly, but to me it was also because he didn’t really want any part of a FP debate in which he was totally outgunned. Unless you’re a senator on a committee that deals with FP, you’re basically up shit creek when going against the POTUS on that ground. Romney, who’s shown very little interest in FP at all, was no different.

We’re headed down the home stretch is this year’s campaigns, it could be a doozy, but I think Obama’s going to win it in the end. Last night was a definitely good for his chances as most post-debate polls showed Obama winning easily. Probably won’t mean much to the polls, but another good performance by the Prez was definitely a must. I thought he was much better than he was in the 2nd debate. As much as I relished his snark, and full blown clowning of Romney, I was definitely concerned he might come off churlish. Doesn’t seem like most folks thought that. Now it’s all about GOTV operations, and if you were paying attention in ’08, you know that Obama might have the best in the business. Obama is already off to a great start in Nevada. Early voting will be huge again this year, but the race is still very close. I’m crossing my fingers ‘til I someone on MSNBC calling it for Obama on election night.

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5 @ 5: War On Drugs – Man Dies Of Allergic Reaction In Police Custody

by TKOEd • Monday, Oct 22, 2012 • no responses - be the first

Apparently some people (Wall Street insiders) it’s wrong to be pissed off at Wall Street, and Goldman in particular because the insiders already know these companies screw their clients

I don’t care if you’re an Atheist. Just don’t be an asshole:

The War On Drugs Claims Another Victim

Solitary confinement is cruel, and usual punishment. Congress should ban it, but they won’t because Americans don’t give a fuck about “criminals.”:

Is Pre-K where income inequality is born? I say no fucking way. It has an impact, but income inequality is about a lot things. Low capital gains tax rates, for one. I don’t think it’s very useful to try & tackle income inequality by looking for a root cause. There is no single thing. Now if you want to talk the achievement gap & Pre-K, I’m all ears.

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The Big Story: Tonight’s Debate

by TKOEd • Monday, Oct 22, 2012 • no responses - be the first

3rd, and final debate tonight between “Benghazi” Barack & “Mexican” Mitt. This one is going to be a foreign policy throwdown. So what should we be checking for during the debate? I’m glad you asked!

  1. Someone out there will be counting how many time Mitt says Benghazi tonight. I do NOT recommend a drinking game based on this word unless you have a doctor standing by.
  2. Can Barack, at a minimum, lay out an a cohesive, and comprehensible outline for what foreign policy will look like in his next term? Especially in the Middle East.
  3. Does Mitt Romeny actually have any knowledge of American foreign policy in the last 4 years that’s more than skin deep? He’s not done well on this front.
  4. How many times will Obama mention Bin Laden? This is probably better suited for alcoholic shenanigans.
  5. Does Mitt Romney sound like he wants to bomb, and/or invade Iran?
  6. How many times will Romney mention Russia? He apparently thinks that Russia is a huge threat to America.
  7. Is Romney able to put President Obama on the defensive?
  8. Is Obama able to make Romney seem out of his league?

Maybe the biggest meme about tonight’s debate will be whether or not comes off like a “plausible commander-in-chief.” I think this does have some importance, but only from the standpoint of facts, and knowledge. The only way to really come off as a plausible C-in-C is to know what the fuck you’re talking about, and to tell the truth. Romney has spent a lot of lying during the last 2 debates. I expect this one to be different, but only slightly. I think it’s harder to tell bald-headed lies about FP, so I think Romney will give a lot of non-answers, and tell many half-truths.

I’ll of course be live-tweeting the debate @AmericaInBlack. Follow me & engage. Thanks!


5 @ 5: Misogyny & Our Daughters

by TKOEd • Friday, Oct 19, 2012 • no responses - be the first

Protect your daughters, and give them the tools they need for their fight, our fight:

This is really scary stuff from my perspective. This man is trying to buy Missouri politics, and with no contribution limits, he just might pull it off:

I’ve said for a long time that while it’s no longer ok to be openly racist or bigoted in America, this society is still thinks it’s peachy keen to be sexist. Unfortunately Facebook is no different:

Nothing like a couple of clueless rich siblings ruining things for everyone:

Vaccinations save lives:

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Fatherhood Friday: Crime & Punishment

by TKOEd • Friday, Oct 19, 2012 • no responses - be the first

It’s hard for me to punish our daughter. Not because she’s a girl or any nonsense like that, but because she’s a kid. Like all kids she makes a lot of mistakes. Basically, she only gets punished for things on which we know that she knows better, and that what she’s done is wrong or something we don’t want her taking part in.

Today her class was supposed to go apple picking. Erika & I were going as chaperones (mostly because we wanted to pick some apples too!). A minute or so after we get to the school with Kyli one of the school administrators comes up to us & asks Kyli to tell us what she did on the school bus the other day. Kyli’s face immediately changes. It goes from full of joy to showing some shame. Kylie recounts her transgressions. Erika hands me the pastries for the parenting forum the school principal holds every Friday. Erika stays downstairs to speak with one of the other kids involved (Kyli’s cousin). Erika comes upstairs, and tells me the whole story. I decide that we are all not going to go on the trip. Erika goes to inform Kyli’s teachers.

Kyli is predictably very upset that she will not be going on the trip. I err on the side of being tough on Kyli while trying to always keep in mind that’s she’s only 6 years old. The other thing I always keep in mind is that I am raising a Black child in America. Some folks have no problem arresting very young Black children for a tantrum.

These are the issues that white parents don’t have to concern themselves with. We’re raising kids that the older they get the less slack they receive just because of their skin color. In some states, Black & Latino juveniles are far more likely to be tried as adults than their white counterparts charged with the same crimes. Now I’m someone who opposes trying juveniles as adults in ALL situations. The notion that we’re going to say a child was acting as an adult is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard. A child is a child is a child. Nothing can change that. The fact that we are the only country in the world that sentences juveniles to life in prison should make us all support continuing that ask why.

Maybe my biggest fear as a father is my child having to deal with our justice system, especially the NYC police. So maybe I’m a little tougher than I need to be sometimes. I’ve been dialing it back, successfully I think. This summer was tough, but Kyli’s been doing better than ever when it comes to actual school work. One thing we’ve learned is that if we’re talking, Kyli is most likely listening. Even when we think she’s not. It can be a long hard struggle to actually see the results, but they always come. But for me, possibly the toughest thing about parenting is the uncertainty. It can take a long time to know if you’re on the right path with your decisions, and as I’ve laid out above it feels like the consequences of being wrong falls harder on our children. At the same time, I’m not interested in stifling Kyli’s personality. All we do is to try, and help her grow into the best Kyli she can be. We’re not interested in raising a child who will fit perfectly into what white society thinks is the best presentation of a Black woman. As I’ve stated before I don’t want her to beholden to anyone or anything, but herself. I believe at some point kids are partially raising themselves, and parents act more as guides than anything else. The tools we give them or help them cultivate up until the point they start to take over can make all the difference. It’s scary that we don’t really know until they’re grown if we’ve given or helped them find all the tools they need. But at the end of the day I think it’s really about do they know they can trust us, and have we helped them find what they need to help themselves. Time will tell, but I feel good about us, my family and our communities.

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5 @ 5: Ladies, In Some States All You Get Is Half

by TKOEd • Thursday, Oct 18, 2012 • no responses - be the first

Truly disturbing: “In Utah the average working woman makes 55 cents for every dollar the average working man makes.”

Abuse is not reform. 81 dead boys over the years at a Florida “reform” school:

Conservative Republican strikes down part of DOMA. A major win for the good guys in a case that is almost certainly headed to the Supreme Court:

Donning a black afro, and making funny hand gestures can change your life, B:

Right-wing scumbag Dinesh D’Ouza resigns because of his marriage/engagement debacle:

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Apparently Domestic Violence Is Funny

by TKOEd • Wednesday, Oct 17, 2012 • no responses - be the first

At least that’s what these students from Waverly High School would like you to believe. Yesterday I wrote about the blackface, today we’ll talk domestic violence.

Do you that it’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month? If you’re not aware, that’s probably due in part to it sharing the month with Breast Cancer Awareness.

Let’s get some stats (PDF):

      • 1 in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
      • An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
      • 85% of domestic violence victims are women.
      • Historically, women, and girls have been most often victimized by someone they knew.
      • Women who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.
      • Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.
      • Intimate partner violence results in more than 18.5 million mental health care visits each year.
      • Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners, and children when they become adults.
      • Sexual assault or forced sex occurs in approximately 40-45% of battering relationships.

Emphasis mine. Anything about these stats funny to you? Unless you’re a complete & utter scumbag, the answer is no.

Apparently the blackface wasn’t enough for these morons. They had to make fun a brutal assault on a woman. A Black woman. I wonder if we would have seen these white kids making fun of DV in their community? I already know the answer though: Fuck No. That’s where the racism beyond the blackface comes in. It’s easy for them to make fun of a couple of Black people “acting ghetto.”

Who gives a shit, right?

We should (PDF):

  • African Americans account for a disproportionate number of intimate partner homicides. In 2005, African Americans accounted for almost 1/3 of the intimate partner homicides in this country.
  • Black women comprise 8% of the U.S. population but in 2005 accounted for 22% of the intimate partner homicide victims and 29% of all women & girl victims of intimate partner homicide.

But who are we to let facts, and reality stand in the way of a good laugh, right?

There’s nothing funny about someone abusing their partner(s) or ex. We especially need to get this message to the young folks in our community. Specifically our boys, and young men. Fellas, it begins with us, we need to let our boys (friends, sons & others) know that there’s nothing acceptable about harming the ones we care for. We must set a good example for them. It all starts with respect. In any disagreement with your partner respect must be at the forefront. Respect for women’s bodies, minds, and most importantly their boundaries. We do not force, we do not intimidate, and we do not cajole.

If you need immediate assistance, dial 911.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Safety Plan.

Together we can help


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