At least that’s what these students from Waverly High School would like you to believe. Yesterday I wrote about the blackface, today we’ll talk domestic violence.

Do you that it’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month? If you’re not aware, that’s probably due in part to it sharing the month with Breast Cancer Awareness.

Let’s get some stats (PDF):

      • 1 in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
      • An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
      • 85% of domestic violence victims are women.
      • Historically, women, and girls have been most often victimized by someone they knew.
      • Women who are 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.
      • Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.
      • Intimate partner violence results in more than 18.5 million mental health care visits each year.
      • Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners, and children when they become adults.
      • Sexual assault or forced sex occurs in approximately 40-45% of battering relationships.

Emphasis mine. Anything about these stats funny to you? Unless you’re a complete & utter scumbag, the answer is no.

Apparently the blackface wasn’t enough for these morons. They had to make fun a brutal assault on a woman. A Black woman. I wonder if we would have seen these white kids making fun of DV in their community? I already know the answer though: Fuck No. That’s where the racism beyond the blackface comes in. It’s easy for them to make fun of a couple of Black people “acting ghetto.”

Who gives a shit, right?

We should (PDF):

  • African Americans account for a disproportionate number of intimate partner homicides. In 2005, African Americans accounted for almost 1/3 of the intimate partner homicides in this country.
  • Black women comprise 8% of the U.S. population but in 2005 accounted for 22% of the intimate partner homicide victims and 29% of all women & girl victims of intimate partner homicide.

But who are we to let facts, and reality stand in the way of a good laugh, right?

There’s nothing funny about someone abusing their partner(s) or ex. We especially need to get this message to the young folks in our community. Specifically our boys, and young men. Fellas, it begins with us, we need to let our boys (friends, sons & others) know that there’s nothing acceptable about harming the ones we care for. We must set a good example for them. It all starts with respect. In any disagreement with your partner respect must be at the forefront. Respect for women’s bodies, minds, and most importantly their boundaries. We do not force, we do not intimidate, and we do not cajole.

If you need immediate assistance, dial 911.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Safety Plan.

Together we can help

 

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